So after thinking that I explained to Lea that Santa was not real, I asked her the next day what she had learned about Santa.
Me: What about the santa's that we saw - at your school and church?
Lea: Those are pretend. The real Santa lives (pointing straight up) at the North Pole.
So I didn't crush her Christmas spirit of Santa, but I have not emphasized that Christmas is all about Santa. Anytime she brings him up - we discuss what Christmas is really about and it's a time to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, not Santa and his reindeer and all the gifts she wants him to bring.
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ha ha! oh *phew* lol... good to know she isn't going to need too much therapy in the future lol....
just out of curiosity--did your parents tell you about santa and christmas this way or is this your own parenting method? (i hope this doesn't sound like i'm criticizing lol... i'm totally not--i just am wondering) my parents never actually "told" me anything, and i've never been upset that they "lied" to me or anything--i've only been disappointed when i got married and moved out and had to be my own santa lol....
i've tried parenting techniques different than my parents on a few issues and am hoping that they don't come back to bite me in the butt--so i'm just wondering if lea is your experiment or a previously tested edition lol...
I guess you just had to be in the lesson and I'm not sure anyone else took away what I did. Erin was sitting by me so I'm not sure she had the same reaction. I was thinking if we could focus more on giving and what we have than what we want, want, want, it would be a better Christmas. Also, I wanted to see what would happen if I told her there was no Santa. Or at least helped her figure it out on her own.
I think I figured it out on my own as Santa had the same handwriting as my dad and that's hard to duplicate. I'm not sure how old I was, but maybe 7 or 8. It was fun and I actually never cared what Santa brought as all of our gifts were a surprise so it didn't matter who brought it.
She's an experiment - isn't that how the oldest child is supposed to be?! :) But I could just see a child of ours just like Jeff who questions everything come back and be mad that we never told him Santa didn't exist or that we lied just to make him behave. Darn that Jeff. :)
ha ha ha! i figure if you child doesn't grow up needing therapy--you didn't do your job lol...
let me know how it works out for you in a few years :o) i'll let you know how mine goes lol... we'll see who screwed it up well and who just did an average job lol :o)
merry christmas :o)
I was in the lesson. I guess every family does what they feel is best. Its hard because every kid is different. Morghan is so literal and black and white (she always has been), so I have a really hard time talking about Santa, I really feel like I'm lying to her. On the other hand, Mckinley is in her own little fairy tale world and everything is so magical to her that its fun to kind of "make-believe" with her. My approach to Morghan is just to let her figure it out on her own. Her Dad is pretty dead-set on not ruinning it for her. Hopefully, she'll feel okay about it when she figures it out (I kind of think she knows deep down, just doesn't want to admit it.) I think that we can use Santa to talk about giving and that was the original intent of Santa Claus, or St. Nicholas, as the real person was originally. We tried to tell the kids that Santa wants us to remember Jesus as the most important part of Christmas...I'm blabbing too much, so I'll stop.
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